Do Not Ignore Their Claims
If your loved one says they are going to kill themselves, do not take it lightly. Immediately initiate a conversation to identify why they want to kill themselves. Listen calmly without rushing to give advice. Do not judge them or blame them for having suicidal thoughts. Focus on understanding the root of the problem so you can help them explore alternative options to solve their problem.
Do Not Make It About Yourself
When caregivers hear that their child is considering suicide, they may try to stop them by emphasizing how their actions could affect the family. For example, you may say, “Why are you doing this to us?” or “This is unfair to us.” A person contemplating suicide may interpret these responses as a sign that you do not care about them or understand how much they are struggling. This may increase their distress or suicidal thoughts.
Instead, focus on your loved one and help them feel seen and understood. Verbally express your willingness to support them through the crisis and and let them know they can reach out to you whenever things feel overwhelming and they need someone to talk to.
Seek Professional Support
Thoughts about suicide may signal an underlying problem like depression or trauma, that only a mental health professional can tackle. Getting your loved one timely support can protect their life and prevent them from committing suicide.
It is best to involve your loved one in decisions about their care whenever possible, except in situations where the risk is severe or immediate. You can start by asking them if they would be comfortable speaking with a professional who can help them. If they say no, help them understand why it is important for them to get professional help. When people understand the importance of something rather than feeling forced to do it, they are more likely to be willing to engage.